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A podcast about men, dating, and societal influences on masculinity. Host Street Saint analyzes fictional narratives and your personal stories to find out what it means to be a man.

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4.01: Black Lives Matter (And So Can You!)
Welcome to the fourth season of the Romeo And... Podcast! <br /><div>This season, I will be presenting to you "Romeo And... Lite" in light of other podcast production demands, a defunct website, higher preparatory demands, and other concerns. But fear not! We've still got all the great musings you've come to love!</div> <br /><div>In this episode, I share the story of how I came to appreciate the Black Lives Matter movement, and what I've learned about myself and my own experiences in the process.</div> <br /><div>Be sure to let me know your thoughts and share them with me at contact@stsaint.com or 516-514-7878.</div> <br />
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3.11: The Sandlot PLUS Reactions to Gun Violence
<div style="font-size:13.3333px;"><strong style="font-size:13.3333px;">SEASON FINALE! </strong></div> <div style="font-size:13.3333px;"><span style="font-size:13.3333px;"> <br /></span></div> <div style="font-size:13.3333px;"><span style="font-size:13.3333px;">Celebrating one more completed season of the podcast. Unfortunately, it is in the midst of numerous tragedies going on in our country. I don't want to end the season on a somber note, but I can't ignore the hate that continues to claim the lives of innocent Americans. I do my best to find a silver lining, but doing so during such a sad time is never easy. </span></div> <div style="font-size:13.3333px;"><font face="Arial, Verdana"> <br /></font></div> <div style="font-size:13.3333px;"><font face="Arial, Verdana">This episode's movie review is on The Sandlot, the coming of age cult classic that you probably still remember if you were raised in the 90s. There is so much to say about the film. And since it was so incredibly popular among children during the 90s, the messages the film imparts are especially influential. </font></div> <div style="font-size:13.3333px;"><font face="Arial, Verdana"> <br /></font></div> <div style="font-size:13.3333px;"><font face="Arial, Verdana">Unfortunately, the messages are a lot of the same things we're used to hearing. That women are objects to be ogled at, and boys must prove their masculinity to each other constantly in order to fit in. </font></div> <br /><div> <div style="font-size:13.3333px;"><font face="Arial, Verdana"><strong>REFERENCES</strong> </font></div> <div style="font-size:13.3333px;"><font face="Arial, Verdana"> <br /></font></div> <div style="font-size:13.3333px;"><font face="Arial, Verdana">- 5 Ways Modern Men Are Trained to Hate Women - Cracked - </font><a href="http://bit.ly/1UqSwlC" title="">http://bit.ly/1UqSwlC</a><font face="Arial, Verdana"> </font></div> <div style="font-size:13.3333px;"><font face="Arial, Verdana"> <br /></font></div> <div style="font-size:13.3333px;"><font face="Arial, Verdana">- Mass Shootings 2016 - Gun Violence Archive - </font><a href="http://bit.ly/28NxWyt" title="">http://bit.ly/28NxWyt</a><font face="Arial, Verdana"> </font></div> <div style="font-size:13.3333px;"><font face="Arial, Verdana"> <br /></font></div> <div style="font-size:13.3333px;"><font face="Arial, Verdana">- Movie dialogue and sound clips from The Sandlot courtesy of 20th Century Fox </font></div></div>
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3.10: Pleasantville PLUS The Depp-Heard Controversy
<div><font face="Arial, Verdana"><span style="font-size:13.3333px;">Critical discussion of the film Pleasantville by Gary Ross. On the surface it's about two teens who get trapped in a black and white television world. Below the surface we see a pointed commentary of society, discrimination, and reluctance to change. And it is this mentality that informs many of the ways people develop opinions on topics like gender and masculinity. </span></font></div> <div><font face="Arial, Verdana"><span style="font-size:13.3333px;"> <br /></span></font></div> <div><font face="Arial, Verdana"><span style="font-size:13.3333px;">I discuss Tobey Maguire's character David and how he goes through the all-too-familiar transition from geeky loser to self-confident man. We often see this transformation in film, but both the definition of "loser" as well as the solution to being a "loser" is problematic when you consider how this translates to real-life men. Additionally, I discuss other portrayals of masculinity and how the conservative mindset works to hold not just men, but all of society back. </span></font></div> <div><font face="Arial, Verdana"><span style="font-size:13.3333px;"> <br /></span></font></div> <div><font face="Arial, Verdana"><span style="font-size:13.3333px;">At the top of the show I talk about the recent news surrounding the Johnny Depp and Amber Heard divorce case. People have been arguing about Heard's accusations of domestic violence against Depp and it's brought some ugly rhetoric to the surface. Should we really be spending this much time digging into the personal lives of people we don't know just because they're famous?</span></font></div> <br /><div><font face="Arial, Verdana"><span style="font-size:13.3333px;">Note: The next episode of the show will be the Season 3 Finale of Romeo And... Excited to close yet another chapter of the show, and looking forward to what is yet to come! </span></font></div> <br /><div><strong style="font-size:13.3333px;">REFERENCES</strong><span style="font-size:13.3333px;"> </span></div> <div><font face="Arial, Verdana"><span style="font-size:13.3333px;"> <br /></span></font></div> <div><font face="Arial, Verdana"><span style="font-size:13.3333px;">- What to Know About Amber Heard’s Domestic Violence Accusations Against Johnny Depp - TIME - </span></font><a href="http://ti.me/1RUPnpp" title="">http://ti.me/1RUPnpp</a><font face="Arial, Verdana"><span style="font-size:13.3333px;"> </span></font></div> <div><font face="Arial, Verdana"><span style="font-size:13.3333px;"> <br /></span></font></div> <div><font face="Arial, Verdana"><span style="font-size:13.3333px;">- New Photos Show Amber Heard's Injuries Allegedly Caused by Johnny Depp in Another Domestic Violence Incident - People - </span></font><a href="http://bit.ly/1RUPSQc" title="">http://bit.ly/1RUPSQc</a><font face="Arial, Verdana"><span style="font-size:13.3333px;"> </span></font></div> <div><font face="Arial, Verdana"><span style="font-size:13.3333px;"> <br /></span></font></div> <div><font face="Arial, Verdana"><span style="font-size:13.3333px;">- Movie dialogue and sound clips from Pleasantville courtesy of New Line Cinema </span></font></div> <div><font face="Arial, Verdana"><span style="font-size:13.3333px;"> <br /></span></font></div>
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3.09: Chasing Amy PLUS How Much is Too PC?
<p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">Today, I talk about the film Chasing Amy. Written, directed, and staring Kevin Smith, the iconic film was a breakthrough in the cultural conversation of homosexuality and bisexuality. Smith does a great job of talking about big societal issues through the gaze of your average, comic book loving male nerd. </p> <p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">I discuss how Smith handles the topic of homosexuality, but I focus on his portrayal of men. The way men think about topics like falling in love, unrequited love, and getting over a breakup. </p> <p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">At the top of the show, I talk about political correctness and how the concept has evolved over the years. The meaning used to be fairly cut and dry: There are certain terms you should use and others that are inappropriate. However, we now talk about political correctness as anything that can be found offensive. I take some time to distinguish between what is "politically correct," what is "offensive," what is "triggering," and what is just plain "disturbing"; and how we should react to each of these comments. </p> <p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">----more----</p> <p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;"><strong>REFERENCES </strong></p> <p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- Movie dialogue and sound clips from <a href="http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0118842/">Chasing Amy</a> courtesy of Miramax Films </p>
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3.08: xXx PLUS The Mask You Live In
<p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">The movie xXx was iconic, not just because it spearheaded Vin Diesel into our hearts as an action superstar, and not just because of its one-of-a-kind stunts that were performed on camera. It also taught us a little something about what it means to be men. At least, what the creators of the film xXx thought it meant to us to be men. </p> <p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">In this week's movie analysis I discuss how the toxic representations of masculinity in the movie xXx can work to shape our understanding of maleness into a narrow box. As if there is only one way to be a man, and Vin Diesel is doing it better than you. I also talk about the women in the film and how they are pictured simply as a means to reinforce this idea of masculinity embodied in Diesel's character. </p> <p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">At the top of the show, I talk about the documentary <a href="http://therepresentationproject.org/film/the-mask-you-live-in/">The Mask You Live In</a> by <a href="http://therepresentationproject.org/">The Representation Project</a>. It is a fantastic depiction of how men and boys are negatively brought up to believe that masculinity is something that must be constantly proven. It shows how the lives of men can be destroyed by this culture of "manliness." But it also presents alternatives to these all too familiar representations of men, and shows us how boys could be raised with healthier senses of identity. </p> <p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">----more----</p> <p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">Check out The Mask You Live In, now available on <a href="https://www.netflix.com/title/80076159">Netflix</a>. </p> <p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;"><strong>REFERENCES </strong></p> <p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- The Mask You Live In - The Representation Project - <a href="http://bit.ly/1rAC8oH">http://bit.ly/1rAC8oH</a> </p> <p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- Movie dialogue and sound clips from xXx courtesy of Columbia Pictures </p>
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3.07: Wanted PLUS Policing the Bathroom
<p style="margin:10px 0px 20px;padding:0px;color:rgb(17,17,17);font-family:Georgia, serif;font-size:13.6px;line-height:21.76px;">If you love shoot-'em-up movies that are secretly about depression and religion, then you've probably already seen the 2008 blockbuster <em>Wanted</em>. The movie reflects a lot of the stresses and stereotypes of masculinity and how a lot of men deal with them. </p> <p style="margin:10px 0px 20px;padding:0px;color:rgb(17,17,17);font-family:Georgia, serif;font-size:13.6px;line-height:21.76px;">I talk at length about anxiety and depression and how the pressure to "be a man" can often lead us into unfulfilling lives. And how doing so can be detrimental to our mental health. I also talk about how women are portrayed in fantasy/action films such as this one, as well as religion, and finding the motivation to improve your life. </p> <p style="margin:10px 0px 20px;padding:0px;color:rgb(17,17,17);font-family:Georgia, serif;font-size:13.6px;line-height:21.76px;">In the first part of the show, I discuss the bill that recently passed in North Carolina that bans transgender people from the bathrooms they feel most comfortable using, and how a number of big-name companies and celebrities have responded to the legislation. </p> <p style="margin:10px 0px 20px;padding:0px;color:rgb(17,17,17);font-family:Georgia, serif;font-size:13.6px;line-height:21.76px;">----more----</p> <p style="margin:10px 0px 20px;padding:0px;color:rgb(17,17,17);font-family:Georgia, serif;font-size:13.6px;line-height:21.76px;">Remember to send me your thoughts on gender segregated bathrooms. Do you think it is important for public restrooms to remain gendered? And if so, what are some compelling arguments for keeping the genders distinguished? </p> <p style="margin:10px 0px 20px;padding:0px;color:rgb(17,17,17);font-family:Georgia, serif;font-size:13.6px;line-height:21.76px;"><strong>REFERENCES </strong></p> <p style="margin:10px 0px 20px;padding:0px;color:rgb(17,17,17);font-family:Georgia, serif;font-size:13.6px;line-height:21.76px;">– <a href="http://bit.ly/1T633z9" title="http://">Tisha Unarmed</a> – YouTube – <a href="http://bit.ly/1T633z9" title="">http://bit.ly/1T633z9</a> </p> <p style="margin:10px 0px 20px;padding:0px;color:rgb(17,17,17);font-family:Georgia, serif;font-size:13.6px;line-height:21.76px;">– <a href="http://nyti.ms/26lJ6y4" title="">North Carolina Bans Local Anti-Discrimination Policies</a> – NY Times – <a href="" title="">http://nyti.ms/26lJ6y4</a> </p> <p style="margin:10px 0px 20px;padding:0px;color:rgb(17,17,17);font-family:Georgia, serif;font-size:13.6px;line-height:21.76px;">– Movie dialogue and sound clips from Wanted courtesy of Universal Pictures </p>
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3.06: The Princess Bride PLUS Virtual Reality Sex!
<p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">My analysis of the classic film, The Princess Bride. After completing the novel by William Goldman, I decided that I had to halt any further movie reviews and talk about this one. I know how influential it was for me, and I know how influential it is for a lot of people in my generation. </p> <p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">Specifically, I talk about how the film and the novel portray gender. The titular Princess herself is very different from many other princesses we are used to seeing in movies and stories. She is not "dainty" and "fragile." She is opinionated and confident. She is determined and strong. Nevertheless, there are still times when her portrayal, especially in the film, reflect the traditional depictions of princesses we are used to seeing from other works in the "damsel in distress" genre. </p> <p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">At the top of the show, I talk about the development of a bodysuit that would work with virtual reality technology to allow the user to experience sex. The suit is designed specifically for male-identified persons, and the scenes they experience are with women. Why do straight men seem to get all the cool, virtual reality sex toys? I offer my thoughts on the issue. </p> <p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">----more----</p> <p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;"><strong>REFERENCES </strong> <br /></p> <p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- <a href="http://amzn.to/1qCHXkZ">The Princess Bride: S. Morgenstern's Classic Tale of True Love and High Adventure</a> by William Goldman - Amazon - <a href="http://amzn.to/1qCHXkZ">http://amzn.to/1qCHXkZ</a> </p> <p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- <a href="http://bit.ly/1SSSmlU">This Japanese Company Is Taking Masturbation Tech to Extreme Levels, but Only for Men</a> - ATTN: - <a href="http://bit.ly/1SSSmlU">http://bit.ly/1SSSmlU</a> </p> <p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- <a href="http://bit.ly/1SSSQbA">The Illusion Virtual Reality Sex Suit Makes Porn Look as Boring as Sketching Boobs on Bark</a> - Mic - <a href="http://bit.ly/1SSSQbA">http://bit.ly/1SSSQbA</a> </p> <p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- <a href="http://bit.ly/1qCHwr0">Strategic Butt Coverings</a> from the Tropes vs Women in Video Games video series by Feminist Frequency - YouTube - <a href="http://bit.ly/1qCHwr0">http://bit.ly/1qCHwr0</a> </p> <p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- Movie dialogue and sound clips from <a href="http://princessbrideforever.com/">The Princess Bride</a> courtesy of 20th Century Fox </p>
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3.05: Wall-E PLUS The Definition of Evil
<p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">Wall-E is the Disney/Pixar classic about a trash-compacting robot who goes on an adventure to save the human race. But beyond that, it's about saving the environment, the dangers of consumerism, men, women, and following your heart. There's a whole lot of awesome to unpack. And I do exactly that in this episode of the show! </p> <p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">I discuss some of the major themes in the movie; namely, our responsibility toward the conservation of our planet, and how big businesses can take over the world if left unchecked. But mainly, I discuss how masculinity and femininity is portrayed in the forms of Wall-E and Eve. </p> <p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">The top of the show is a bit dark because I talk specifically about evil. The darkest of the dark! I discuss how evil should be defined and regarded, as well as how we can work to improve our criminal justice system. </p> <p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">TRIGGER WARNING: I touch on the subjects of rape, murder, and other forms of depravity. If you want to dodge all that and get to the discussion of the children's movie, skip to minute 20! </p> <p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">----more----</p> <p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;"><strong>REFERENCES </strong></p> <p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- <a href="http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0910970/">Wall-E</a> (2008) - IMDb - <a href="http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0910970">http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0910970</a> </p>
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3.04: Gone Girl PLUS The (New) Ghostbusters
<p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">Sharing my thoughts on the 2014 movie <em>Gone Girl</em> starring Ben Affleck. The film touches on a lot of issues regarding gender as well as race and privilege, so naturally, I had to take a swing at it. </p> <p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;"><strong>EPIC SPOILER ALERT!</strong> Do not listen to this episode of the show if you haven't yet seen the movie or read the book <em>Gone Girl</em>. Mainly because I don't want to be the one to ruin such a great story for you. </p> <p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">I discuss how men are often unfairly portrayed by the media, and how women are often idolized and seen as "pure." I also discuss how Gillian Flynn tackles the topic of privilege and why it's such an important conversation for us to be having. </p> <p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">At the top of the show, I talk about the newly released trailer for the upcoming Ghostbusters film featuring an all-female team. I was not particularly fond of the new trailer, but I hope the actual movie is more impressive. Let me know what you thought of the trailer and how you think the film will do in the box office this year! </p> <p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">----more----</p> <p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;"><strong>REFERENCES </strong></p> <p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- <a href="http://gillian-flynn.com/gone-girl">Gone Girl</a> by Gillian Flynn - Official Website - <a href="http://gillian-flynn.com/gone-girl">http://gillian-flynn.com/gone-girl</a> </p> <p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- <a href="http://www.imdb.com/title/tt2267998/">Gone Girl</a> (2014) - IMDb - <a href="http://www.imdb.com/title/tt2267998">http://www.imdb.com/title/tt2267998</a>  <br /></p> <p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- <a href="http://bit.ly/1QQnDFn">Gillian Flynn on her bestseller Gone Girl and accusations of misogyny</a> - The Guardian - <a href="http://bit.ly/1QQnDFn">http://bit.ly/1QQnDFn</a> </p> <p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- <a href="http://1.usa.gov/1QQoCVU">Family Violence Statistics PDF</a> (2005) - US Department of Justice - <a href="http://1.usa.gov/1QQoCVU">http://1.usa.gov/1QQoCVU</a> </p> <p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- <a href="http://huff.to/1QQnNfM">At Least A Third Of All Women Murdered In The U.S. Are Killed By Male Partners</a> - Huffington Post - <a href="http://huff.to/1QQnNfM">http://huff.to/1QQnNfM</a>  <br /></p> <p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- <a href="http://bit.ly/1QQolCq">GHOSTBUSTERS Official Trailer</a> - YouTube - <a href="http://bit.ly/1QQolCq">http://bit.ly/1QQolCq</a> </p> <p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- <a href="http://bit.ly/1QQortP">GHOSTBUSTERS International Trailer</a> - YouTube - <a href="http://bit.ly/1QQortP">http://bit.ly/1QQortP</a> </p>
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3.03: 10 Things I Hate About You PLUS The White Race
<p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">Taking a trip down nostalgia lane and breaking down the 90s teen drama of 90s teen dramas, <em>10 Things I Hate About You</em>. The film was in a lot of ways a reflection of the millennial generation and shows us a somewhat cringe-worthy picture of our mindset 20 years ago. </p> <p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">That said, the film does a lot of things right. The screenplay was written by women, there is more than one minority character, the women in the film have personalities, and each character has strengths and weaknesses. To be fair, the play the story was based on was written by Shakespeare himself. Unfortunately, the movie still leaves us with the impression that being a feminist means being too unpleasant to be able to date men. </p> <p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">If you are a MRA, than you might agree with this sentiment. However, I explain why this thinking ultimately puts us back. </p> <p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">At the top of the show, I discuss whiteness and how "Caucasian" is often disregarded in conversations about race. Why don't we group white people together as a race the same way we do every other minority? What can we learn by talking about Whiteness the same way we talk about any other race? </p> <br />----more---- <p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">All this and more in this episode! </p> <p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;"><strong>REFERENCES </strong></p> <p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z-nmxnmt_XU">WTF is Intersectional Feminism???</a> on MTV's Braless - YouTube - <a href="http://bit.ly/1T3OEs4">http://bit.ly/1T3OEs4</a> </p> <p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- <a href="http://bit.ly/1T3OC3y">Why Our Feminism Must Be Intersectional (And 3 Ways to Practice It)</a> - Everyday Feminism - <a href="http://bit.ly/1T3OC3y">http://bit.ly/1T3OC3y</a> </p> <p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- <a href="http://bit.ly/1T3OCRa">5 Reasons Intersectionality Matters, Because Feminism Cannot Be Inclusive Without It</a> - Bustle - <a href="http://bit.ly/1T3OCRa">http://bit.ly/1T3OCRa</a> </p> <p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- Movie dialogue and sound clips from 10 Things I Hate About You courtesy of Buena Vista Pictures </p>
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3.02: Secretary PLUS The Relationship Trinity
<p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">To celebrate Valentine's Day, I continue my discussion of <em>50 Shades of Grey</em>; however, this time using a film that does the BDSM community a little more justice. I break down the movie <em>Secretary</em> and share why it is not only a better quality film, but has more developed and relatable characters, a more moving storyline, and better representations of bondage, masochism, and consent. </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">That said, the film does not do everything right and there are still a number of pitfalls in the story that I raise. Even so, it is a fantastic movie and I highly recommend it, regardless of your relationship to BDSM. </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">At the top of the show, I detail my theory of the "Relationship Trinity," which is essentially a way for people to determine what they ultimately want in a relationship partner, as well as what they can offer to their relationships. The trinity consists of the Emotional, the Economical, and the Physical. </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">The most fulfilling relationships will have some combination of all three elements that all the involved parties can agree on and be happy with. And though I further explain how these elements can be understood, the special blend of the three that you need in your life is a recipe that only you and your prospective partners can determine. </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">----more----</p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;"><strong>REFERENCES </strong></p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- Secretary - Lions Gate Films </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- 50 Shades of Grey – Universal Pictures and Focus Features </p>
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3.01: 50 Shades of Grey PLUS The End of Capitalism?
<p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">SEASON PREMIER! </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">In the first episode of season 3, we take a look at the movie <em>50 Shades of Grey</em>, and why everyone love/hated it. Who is Christian Grey? What does he represent? What makes him such a terrible person? Why does everyone love him anyway? Why should we even care? </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">I argue that Anastasia, the story's leading lady, is actually the classic "Nice Guy," but in a woman's body (and Grey is her Manic Pixie Dream Billionaire). I also briefly discuss how the film falsely portrays BDSM and consent, and how romance novels like <em>50 Shades of Grey</em> are not unlike pornography. </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">At the top of the show, I talk a little about the 2016 US presidential race with the Iowa caucus happening today. I then discuss how the American people seem to be favoring smaller businesses and how that affects today's entrepreneurs. </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">----more----</p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;"><strong>REFERENCES </strong></p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- <a href="/">Get Rich or Die Vlogging: The sad economics of internet fame</a> by Gaby Dunn - Fusion - <a href="http://fus.in/1Pt9Bsg">http://fus.in/1Pt9Bsg</a> </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- <a href="http://www.eljamesauthor.com/books/fifty-shades-of-grey/">50 Shades of Grey</a> by E.L. James - <a href="http://www.eljamesauthor.com/">http://www.eljamesauthor.com</a> </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- 50 Shades of Grey - Universal Pictures and Focus Features </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- <a href="http://bit.ly/1WXqDle">6 Myths about BDSM Inspired by "50 Shades of Grey"</a> - Divine Caroline - <a href="http://bit.ly/1WXqDle">http://bit.ly/1WXqDle</a> </p>
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2.22: Rudolph the Red Nosed Reindeer
<p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">Happy Holidays! For this very special, season finale episode of Romeo And... I give you my review of <a href="http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0058536/">Rudolph the Red Nosed Reindeer</a>, the 1964 classic based on the ever popular Christmas song of the same name. The film has been a Christmas tradition in my family for several years, and was one of my first explorations into the world of sex discrimination. </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">I discuss how differently discrimination was addressed 50 years ago, and the way these sex differences were regarded. How we addressed discrimination then paints a very distinct (and often hilarious) picture of the way we look at these same issues today. Unfortunately, though we enjoy much more equality nowadays, we are still dealing with the same issues of discrimination that we dealt with back then. </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">At the top of the show, I also give a reminder that the holiday season is not happy and joyous for everyone. Be mindful about how you engage with others. It doesn't mean you're not allowed to be joyous yourself, but recognize that resentment and sadness are natural reactions to tough times. Sometimes people want to endure these feelings without others insisting they need to cheer up. </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">That said, have a wonderful New Year! And I hope you are all back in February for season 3 of Romeo And...! </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">----more----</p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;"><strong>REFERENCES </strong></p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- <a href="http://amzn.to/1MCc7b0">Rising Strong</a> by Brené Brown - Amazon - <a href="http://amzn.to/1MCc7b0">http://amzn.to/1MCc7b0</a> </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- Movie dialogue and sound clips from <a href="http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0058536/">Rudolph the Red Nosed Reindeer</a> courtesy of DreamWorks Classics </p>
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2.21: My Spiritual Awakening (Discussion)
<p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">Continuing from the <a href="http://www.stsaint.com/home/2015/12/2-20-my-spiritual-awakening/">previous episode of the show</a>, I discuss the story <a href="http://www.stsaint.com/home/2015/12/2-20/">My Spiritual Awakening</a>. Though the story focuses a lot on how I came to become a Unitarian Universalist, I focus my discussion on my experience with my crush, Yolanda. </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">I discuss how I handled the situation in general (what I did well, what I should not have done), how men are shamed for feeling sexual desire, how we teach men that being chauvinist is acceptable, and that women do not all have the same interests simply because they are women. </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">At the top of the show, I talk more about "patriarchy." What it is, and how it came to be. Ultimately, it comes down to how we develop a preference or interest in anything. We are brought up a certain way, which leads us to develop a certain fondness and nostalgia for things from our childhood. Patriarchy does not significantly benefit any group of people, and yet, we don't like the idea of changing it because it is all we've ever known. </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">What is your opinion on patriarchy? What do you feel the term refers to, and how does it manifest in the world we live in? Send me your thoughts! </p>
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2.20: My Spiritual Awakening
<p style="font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;color:rgb(51,51,51);line-height:24px;">Sharing the story "My Spiritual Awakening" about going to college, finding religion, and finding myself. Also, about <em>not</em> finding love, of course. Essentially my origin story of converting to Unitarian Universalism. </p><p style="font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;color:rgb(51,51,51);line-height:24px;">Not only is this the last story I will be sharing on the podcast before season 3, it will likely be the last long-form story I will be doing on the show. Going forward, I will most likely revert back to sharing shorter stories. Additionally, I will be focused more on sharing stories from guests and listeners like you, so be sure to send your stories in to me! </p><p style="font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;color:rgb(51,51,51);line-height:24px;">At the top of the show, I talk about the differences between complimenting people as a man versus as a woman. Men are way more likely to be seen as potential sexual predators, so they have to be more careful about how they approach people. It sucks that men are automatically seen as potentially threatening, but women (as the primary targets of sexual violence) have to be careful about how they interact with men they don't know. </p><p style="font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;color:rgb(51,51,51);line-height:24px;">As a guy, it's important to recognize that women have to view you as potentially threatening to protect themselves. If you are unwilling to adjust your behavior to indicate that you are non-threatening, you refuse to consider the realities of the world we live in, and you can't be upset if women are less likely to trust you. </p><p style="font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;color:rgb(51,51,51);line-height:24px;">----more----</p><p style="font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;color:rgb(51,51,51);line-height:24px;">What is your opinion on profiling? Is profiling people always wrong? Or do we have a certain obligation to judge the people around us based on stereotypes, stories, and/or the news we read? Let me know your thoughts! </p><p style="font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;color:rgb(51,51,51);line-height:24px;">Be sure to send me your thoughts on the story "My Spiritual Awakening" as well, so I can discuss your ideas in the next episode! </p><p style="font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;color:rgb(51,51,51);line-height:24px;"><strong>REFERENCES </strong></p><p style="font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;color:rgb(51,51,51);line-height:24px;">- <a href="http://bit.ly/1ORyi31">Shea Glover's "People React To Being Called Beautiful" Project Captures Raw Moments Of Body Positivity</a> - Bustle - <a href="http://bit.ly/1ORyi31">http://bit.ly/1ORyi31</a> </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);line-height:24px;"><font face="Georgia, Times New Roman, Bitstream Charter, Times, serif">- </font><a href="http://bit.ly/1lZVXTx" title="" style="font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;">My Spiritual Awakening</a><font face="Georgia, Times New Roman, Bitstream Charter, Times, serif"> (Full Text) - Street Saint - </font><font face="Georgia" style="line-height:normal;"><a href="http://bit.ly/1lZVXTx" title="" style="line-height:normal;">http://bit.ly/1lZVXTx</a> </font></p>
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2.19: Gladiator
<p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">This week, I reviewed the 2000 instant classic <em>Gladiator</em> by Ridley Scott. When I chose the movie, I figured there would be a whole lot I could talk about in regards to gender representation. I was mistaken. To my surprise, the film was so good, that I couldn't come up with a whole lot to criticize it about. </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">And instead of trying to pull the film apart anyway, just because I can, I decided to call a spade a spade, to demonstrate that not every piece of media needs to be torn apart. <em>Gladiator</em> is an example of a movie that doesn't necessarily do everything "right," but does what it does without falling into tired conventions and stereotypes just to pad the plot. </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">If you came for a biting feminist critique of <em>Gladiator</em>, you won't find it here. </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">At the top of the show, I discuss mental illness. Again. But this time, I focus specifically on men. Men are still demonized, criticized, and humiliated for wanting emotional support. As a result, we either develop a thick skin, or develop a negative self-image. Generally we do both. But we don't talk about men's mental health or self-image like we do for women. And so, men continue thinking that they are inadequate or weak, which can lead to resentment, anger, violence, depression, and often suicide. </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">Instead of continuing to claim that there is "something wrong with men," we need to start recognizing how we as a society have failed them, and continue to fail them. Only then can we begin to heal. </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">----more----</p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">What do you think about men and mental illness? Do you think men are overreacting when they complain about male stereotypes? Or do you think this is a serious problem that needs to be addressed? Let me know your thoughts! </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;"><strong>REFERENCES </strong></p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- <a href="http://bit.ly/1OtWc4u">“What’s It Worth To You?” Charging For Emotional Labor Is An Inherently Feminist Act</a> - HARLOT Magazine - <a href="http://bit.ly/1OtWc4u">http://bit.ly/1OtWc4u</a> </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- <a href="http://bit.ly/1Ou28ui">Suicide and silence: why depressed men are dying for somebody to talk to</a> - The Guardian - <a href="http://bit.ly/1Ou28ui">http://bit.ly/1Ou28ui</a> </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- <a href="http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0172495/">Gladiator (2000)</a> - IMDb - <a href="http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0172495">http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0172495</a> </p>
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2.18: Q&A - What are "Men's Issues"?
<p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">Answering questions about men's issues from men's rights activists. After hosting an AMA (Ask Me Anything) on the <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/MensRights" title="">men's rights subreddit</a>, I compiled a list of questions many MRAs have for feminists. Unfortunately, (mainly due to my own oversights) the people who commented on my post were all looking for an argument. As a result, most of the information I could gather from the AMA is ineffectual. </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">However, the actual questions I was asked were thought provoking and yielded some good insight as to what many men's rights activists dislike about our current social systems, as well as where my thoughts and theirs overlap. </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">At the top of the show, I talk about mental illness and a lot of the misconceptions people have about it. Does having depression mean you are just "sad" and need a pick-me-up? If you have a lot of friends, and a good job, and a caring partner, does it mean that you can't be depressed? Can having these things <em>cure</em> depression? </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">The short answer: Nope. </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">----more----</p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">Be sure to send me any follow-up questions you have about the AMA and the answers I gave. Also, let me know your thoughts on mental illness. Send all your questions in so I can answer them in the next Q&A episode! </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;"><strong>REFERENCES </strong></p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- <a href="http://amzn.to/1PVm3Um">Why Men Earn More: The Startling Truth Behind the Pay Gap - and What Women Can Do About It</a> by Dr. Warren Ferrell - Amazon - <a href="http://amzn.to/1PVm3Um">http://amzn.to/1PVm3Um</a> </p>
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2.17: Dress How You Want to Feel - Interview with Serastar Freese
<p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">In <a href="http://www.stsaint.com/home/2015/09/2-09-our-whole-lives-interview-with-elizabeth-mount/">episode 9 of the show</a>, I discussed how I felt about men's fashion, especially at award shows. Women seem to have all the options, while men have the choice of: black suit, grey suit, or white suit. In response to this, seamstress and artist <a href="https://www.facebook.com/craftcaravancolorado/">Serastar Freese</a> got in touch with me to open my eyes a bit about men's fashion and the options that do exist in dressing up. </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">A lot of men think of suits as "one suit fits all." Meaning, your one suit can be worn to any formal event, in any location, at any time of the year. And though, to a large extent, men can get away with this more so than women can, there are suits made for specific occasions and instances. There is such a thing as a summer suit versus a winter suit. And the fabric used to make your outfit can ultimately determine how comfortable you end up feeling in any given situation. </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">Serastar gives some great insight and tips for how to better understand what to look for in formal attire, as well as how you should end up feeling when wearing your clothes. If it doesn't feel comfortable, it just isn't right for you. </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">At the top of the show, I talk about International Men's Day, which occurred this past week on November 19th. The University of York <a href="http://bit.ly/1MTzkpN">canceled their International Men's Day event</a>, and it stirred up a good amount of controversy, especially within the Men's Rights community. Is International Men's Day really that big of a deal? Should we really have a special day to celebrate the lives of men? Send me your thoughts! </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;"><strong>REFERENCES </strong></p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- <a href="http://bit.ly/1MTzkpN">Row after University of York cancels International Men’s Day event</a> - The Guardian - <a href="http://bit.ly/1MTzkpN">http://bit.ly/1MTzkpN</a> </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- <a href="http://www.internationalmensday.com/">International Men's Day</a> - Official Site - <a href="http://www.internationalmensday.com/">http://www.internationalmensday.com</a> </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- <a href="https://www.facebook.com/craftcaravancolorado/">Craft Caravan</a> - Official Facebook Page - <a href="https://www.facebook.com/craftcaravancolorado/">https://www.facebook.com/craftcaravancolorado</a> </p>
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2.16: For the Love of Flying Trapeze (Discussion)
<p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">I shared the story <a href="http://www.stsaint.com/home/2015/11/2-15-for-the-love-of-flying-trapeze-full-text/">For the Love of Flying Trapeze</a> in the <a href="http://www.stsaint.com/home/2015/11/2-15-for-the-love-of-flying-trapeze-story/">previous episode</a> of the show. This week, I'm following up with my analysis of what I learned and what conclusions could be drawn from the events. I hit on some really key points as well. </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">Namely, I talk about long distance relationships and what conditions need to be true in order for them to succeed. I explain how to tell if someone is flirting with you or if they are just being friendly, and whether the distinction is important to make (spoiler: it's not that important!). I also bring up once again why it is important to be clear with your intentions. In other words, if you want to go out on a date, don't simply ask your crush to "hang out" with you. That said, I discuss how just hanging out could actually be a good way to get into a relationship as well. </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">I also talk about the so-called "Friend Zone," and why, instead of dreading it, you should celebrate it! I know it's not something you would expect a "Nice Guy" to tell you to do... but trust me on this one. There are plenty of benefits about being in the "Friend Zone" that you can use to your advantage. </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">At the top of the show, I talk about the biological differences between men and women and how these differences led to the development of the "gender laws" we live by today. I try to highlight the difference between the behaviors that stem directly or indirectly from our different biology (ex. women being more sexually selective than men, and men being more competitive than women), and the ideas that we develop based on our socialization, independent of our biological nature (ex. women must be caretakers, men must be soldiers). </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;"><strong>REFERENCES </strong></p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- <a href="http://bit.ly/1Q0UQPT">MATE: Become The Man Women Want</a> by Tucker Max and Geoffrey Miller - Mating Grounds -- <a href="http://bit.ly/1Q0UQPT">http://bit.ly/1Q0UQPT</a> </p>
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2.15: For the Love of Flying Trapeze (Story)
<p style="font-weight:normal;color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">Sharing the story <a href="Sharing%20the%20story%20" title="">For the Love of Flying Trapeze</a> about my experience dating a fellow circus person. With the challenges of constant travel and irregular schedules, it can be extremely difficult to be in a relationship when you work in the circus world. That difficulty is multiplied when you add the fact that you are a socially anxious "Nice Guy"... </p><p style="font-weight:normal;color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">At the top of the show, I talk about the video game streaming website <a href="http://www.twitch.tv/">Twitch</a> and the recent tightening of its dress policy. The new policy was targeted almost exclusively at female streamers who would attempt to entice young male viewers with their cleavage. This incited a heated debate about censorship and freedom of expression on the site. I share my two cents about the various arguments. </p><p style="font-weight:normal;color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">Be sure to send in your thoughts and questions about this week's story so I can address them in the upcoming episode! </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;"><strong>REFERENCES</strong> </p><p style="font-weight:normal;color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- <a href="http://bit.ly/1XNem3B" title="http://">For the Love of Flying Trapeze</a> - Street Saint - <a href="http://bit.ly/1XNem3B" title="http://" style="font-family:Arial, Verdana;font-size:10pt;line-height:normal;">http://bit.ly/1XNem3B</a> </p>
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2.14: The Baxter
<p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">Movie analysis of the independent comedy <a href="http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0401244/">The Baxter</a> by Michael Showalter. The film centers around the character in a romantic movie who is left at the alter. He is the guy who the leading lady starts dating after breaking up with the leading man. He is a nice guy, but he is not right for her. And this movie shows us exactly why. </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">In my analysis, I talk about the defining features of a Baxter (aka. Nice Guy). Namely, they are naive losers who don't know what they really want or need out of life and relationships. I discuss how the aversion to taking risks is often falsely cited as the cause of the Baxter's failure to maintain a relationship, and how we demand these men to change who they are to fit a more idealized version of masculinity. </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">At the top of the show, I discuss the viral video of the boy who knocks a girl off her bike with a basketball. I talk about how catcalling is deeply rooted to men's upbringing, and I share my theory as to why men catcall women in the first place. </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;"><strong>REFERENCES </strong></p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- <a href="http://bit.ly/1Q0Uskr">Boy Knocks Girl Off Bike With Basketball</a> - The Young Turks - <a href="http://bit.ly/1Q0Uskr">http://bit.ly/1Q0Uskr</a> </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- <a href="http://bit.ly/1Q0UQPT">MATE: Become The Man Women Want</a> by Tucker Max and Geoffrey Miller - Mating Grounds - <a href="http://bit.ly/1Q0UQPT">http://bit.ly/1Q0UQPT</a> </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- <a href="http://book.azizansari.com/">Modern Romance</a> by Aziz Ansari and Eric Klinenberg - Modern Romance - <a href="http://book.azizansari.com/">http://book.azizansari.com</a> </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- <a href="http://amzn.to/1Q0V7Cq">Angry White Men: American Masculinity at the End of an Era</a> by Michael Kimmel - <a href="http://amzn.to/1Q0V7Cq">http://amzn.to/1Q0V7Cq</a> </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- Movie dialogue and sound clips from <a href="http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0401244/">The Baxter</a> courtesy of IFC Films </p>
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2.13: Stony Brook University Center for the Study of Men and Masculinities
<p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">I took a visit to the <a href="http://www.stonybrook.edu/commcms/csmm/">Stony Brook University Center for the Study of Men and Masculinities</a> after <a href="http://nyti.ms/1ksayX7">reading an article</a> about their new masters program in "Masculinities Studies." At first, I was just confused about why they insisted on making "masculinities" plural all the time, but I figured I could learn a lot from people who study men professionally. </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">I did end up learning a whole lot in just the few hours I was there, including how much biology informs our perceptions of gender, why gender inequality exists in most cultures, and of course, what the difference is between "masculinity" and "masculinities." </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">At the top of the show, I talk about the book <a href="http://humorcode.com/">The Humor Code</a> by Peter McGraw and Joel Warner. I was intrigued by the authors' theory on "the benign violation," and what it could tell us about the difference between male and female comedians. Why are there more male than female comedians? Are women just not as funny as men? </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">Let me know your thoughts about humor in the comments below! Why do you think men are more likely to be comedians? </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">Also, don't forget to tweet me <a href="https://twitter.com/Street_Saint">@Street_Saint</a> and let me know something you liked or a comment you had about this particular episode! <a href="https://twitter.com/search?q=%23RomeoAnd">#RomeoAnd</a> </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;"><strong>REFERENCES </strong></p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- <a href="http://www.slate.com/articles/arts/culturebox/features/2014/the_humor_code/are_men_funnier_than_women_sorry_christopher_hitchens_they_re_not.html">Proof That Men Are Not Funnier Than Women</a> - Slate - <a href="http://slate.me/1PxfeIc">http://slate.me/1PxfeIc</a> </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- <a href="http://humorcode.com/">The Humor Code</a> by Peter McGraw and Joel Warner - Amazon - <a href="http://amzn.to/1k3CZdB">http://amzn.to/1k3CZdB</a> </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- <a href="http://www.petermcgraw.org/a-brief-introduction-to-the-benign-violation-theory-of-humor/">A Brief Introduction to the Benign Violation Theory of Humor</a> - Peter McGraw - <a href="http://bit.ly/1PxheQF">http://bit.ly/1PxheQF</a> </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- <a href="http://bit.ly/1k3D9lc">Peter McGraw: What Makes Things Funny</a> - TEDxBoulder - <a href="http://bit.ly/1k3D9lc">http://bit.ly/1k3D9lc</a> </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- <a href="http://nyti.ms/1ksayX7">A Master’s Degree in ... Masculinity?</a> - New York Times - <a href="http://nyti.ms/1ksayX7">http://nyti.ms/1ksayX7</a> </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- <a href="http://www.stonybrook.edu/commcms/csmm/">Stony Brook University Center for the Study of Men and Masculinities</a> - Stony Brook University - <a href="http://bit.ly/1k3E1q5">http://bit.ly/1k3E1q5</a> </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- <a href="http://www.michaelkimmel.com/">Dr. Michael Kimmel</a> - Official Website - <a href="http://www.michaelkimmel.com/">http://www.michaelkimmel.com</a> </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- <a href="http://bit.ly/1k3DPqS">Michael Kimmel: Why Gender Equality is Good For Everyone, Men Included</a> - TED - <a href="http://bit.ly/1k3DPqS">http://bit.ly/1k3DPqS</a> </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- <a href="http://amzn.to/1k3DvID">Michael Kimmel Author Page</a> - Amazon - <a href="http://amzn.to/1k3DvID">http://amzn.to/1k3DvID</a> </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- <a href="http://amzn.to/1k3EmZH">Sex and Temperment: In Three Primative Societies</a> by Margaret Mead - Amazon - <a href="http://amzn.to/1k3EmZH">http://amzn.to/1k3EmZH</a> </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- <a href="http://www.raewynconnell.net/">Raewyn Connell</a> - Official Website - <a href="http://www.raewynconnell.net/">http://www.raewynconnell.net</a> </p>
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2.12: Be Careful What You Wish For, Lest it be Tula (Discussion)
<p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">I look back at the story from last week, <a href="http://www.stsaint.com/home/2015/10/2-11-be-careful-what-you-wish-for-lest-it-be-tula-story/">Be Careful What You Wish For, Lest it be Tula</a>, and discuss what was learned from it. I cover a lot of topics in this episode; and I think there are a lot of great highlights for men as well as women. </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">The broader concepts I talk about are race and interracial dating, how anxiety brings us to find excuses for our behavior, how we sometimes ignore certain facts about our lives simply because they don't seem fair, and how Tula and I both fell short in pursuing the relationship. I definitely recommend checking out this episode because I hit on a lot of great insights. </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">At the top of the show, I talk about the recent announcement made by Playboy about how it will be no longer publishing nude photos. It seems like a huge change for one of the most well known brands in the world, although it may just be a sign of the times. I discuss the current state of the porn industry, how it is changing, and what it could ultimately mean for us as a culture. </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;"><strong>REFERENCES </strong></p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Modern-Romance-Aziz-Ansari/dp/1594206279/">Modern Romance</a> by Aziz Ansari - Amazon - <a href="http://amzn.to/1ZPCG75">http://amzn.to/1ZPCG75</a> </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Rising-Strong-Bren%C3%A9-Brown/dp/0812995821">Rising Strong</a> by Brene Brown - Amazon - <a href="http://amzn.to/1ZPCCUE">http://amzn.to/1ZPCCUE</a> </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- <a href="http://www.playboy.com/articles/no-nudity-announcement">Playboy is Doing What?!?</a> - Playboy - <a href="http://bit.ly/1k20TX9">http://bit.ly/1k20TX9</a> </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- <a href="http://www.nytimes.com/2015/10/13/business/media/nudes-are-old-news-at-playboy.html">Nudes Are Old News at Playboy</a> - New York Times - <a href="http://nyti.ms/1Ms94mq">http://nyti.ms/1Ms94mq</a> </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- <a href="http://www.thecsph.org/the-csph-resources/web-resources/sex-positive-basics/pleasure/sex-positive-and-feminist-friendly-porn/">Sex Positive and Feminist Friendly Porn</a> - Center for Sexual Pleasure and Health - <a href="http://bit.ly/1k7tTNg">http://bit.ly/1k7tTNg</a> </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- <a href="http://www.bustle.com/articles/10042-feminist-porn-101-your-guide-to-empowering-sexytimes">Your Handy Guide to Feminist Porn</a> - Bustle - <a href="http://bit.ly/1k7vUci">http://bit.ly/1k7vUci</a> </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- Sound clips from <a href="http://www.hbo.com/game-of-thrones">Game of Thrones</a> courtesy of <a href="http://www.hbo.com/">HBO</a> </p>
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2.11: Be Careful What You Wish For, Lest it be Tula (Story)
<p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">Last month, I invited a listener on to the show to share her stories about dating. At one point, she asked me if I had ever been asked out by a woman. I said that I had once, it was awful, and I would share the story on the show. Well, today is the day! </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">In "<a href="http://www.stsaint.com/home/2015/10/2-11-be-careful-what-you-wish-for-lest-it-be-tula-full-text/" title="">Be Careful What You Wish For, Lest it be Tula</a>," I am accosted by a girl and her friend in middle school who has a crush on me. The whole incident made me feel uncomfortable and embarrassed, and I learned a lot about myself in the process. I look forward to sharing more of that insight with you next week, when I further analyze the story. </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">At the top of the show, I talk a little bit more about what Meghan Fox teaches us in the Transformers movie: That attractive women are not gifted everything in their lives by virtue of being attractive. By insinuating that someone only achieves something based on their looks is essentially a way for you to cope with your own feelings of jealousy or injustice. Don't fall into that trap! </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;"><strong>REFERENCES </strong></p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Rising-Strong-Bren%C3%A9-Brown/dp/1101913800">Rising Strong</a> by Brené Brown - Amazon - <a href="http://amzn.to/1LfETPf">http://amzn.to/1LfETPf</a> </p>
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2.10: Transformers
<p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">What does the movie <em>Transformers</em> teach us about masculinity? You might find that there's more in the film than meets the eye... </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">In the movie, strong statements are made about what it means to be a teenager in America and what is important to these teenage boys. Namely cars and women.  We also see the pinnacle of manliness in soldiers in the army. It seems that, in order to be a true man, one must join the armed forces and fight for their country. </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">Lastly, I take a look at Meghan Fox's character Mikaela. Fox is often criticized as being nothing more than a pretty face in the film, but I argue that perhaps there is a lot we are overlooking in this thinking. </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">At the top of the show, I talk about my experience getting confronted by the trolls of GamerGate. Is GamerGate a terrorist organization? Or just a group of guys fighting for more ethical journalism? I share my understanding of the situation. </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;"><strong>REFERENCES </strong></p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- WTF is Wrong with Video Games? - Polygon - <a href="http://bit.ly/1LcVIOf">http://bit.ly/1LcVIOf</a> </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- Movie dialogue and sound clips from <a href="http://imdb.to/1L9PrP0">Transformers</a> courtesy of <a href="http://www.dreamworksstudios.com/">DreamWorks Pictures</a> and <a href="http://www.paramount.com/">Paramount Pictures</a> </p>
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2.09: Our Whole Lives - Interview with Elizabeth Mount
<p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">I have a conversation with <a href="http://www.uua.org/re/owl">Our Whole Lives</a> (OWL) educator Elizabeth Mount. OWL is a program for sexual education created by the <a href="http://www.uua.org/">Unitarian Universalist</a> and <a href="http://www.ucc.org/">United Church of Christ</a> faiths. The program has a curriculum designed for specific age groups to teach about body awareness, dating, consent, and safe sexual practices. I talked briefly about the OWL program on a <a href="http://www.stsaint.com/home/2015/09/2-06-don-jon/">previous episode</a> of the show, and I wanted to follow up by chatting with someone who teaches the actual curriculum. </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">Elizabeth talks about the progression of the OWL curriculum throughout the different age groups, as well as why comprehensive sexual education is important and what we can gain from practicing safe sex and consent. For more about the OWL program, check the references below for links to more information. </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">At the top of the show, I talk about men's fashion. The Emmys were last week and every time I see an award show, I am reminded about how little choice men have in terms of fashion compared to women. The fact that men are only allowed to wear suits, ties, and tuxedos is extremely constraining. As a guy, it is nice that you don't have to worry as much as women do about changing fashion trends. However, I know a lot of guys wish they had more freedom of choice without being criticised for their dress at formal events. </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;"><strong>REFERENCES </strong></p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- <a href="http://www.uua.org/re/owl">Unitarian Universalist Association OWL Page</a> - Unitarian Universalist Association - <a href="http://bit.ly/1QHFQDn">http://bit.ly/1QHFQDn</a> </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- <a href="http://www.ucc.org/justice_sexuality-education_our-whole-lives">United Church of Christ OWL Page</a> - United Church of Christ - <a href="http://bit.ly/1QHGgto">http://bit.ly/1QHGgto</a> </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- <a href="http://bit.ly/1QHHkxo">Unitarian Universalist Congregation Locator</a> - Unitarian Universalist Association - <a href="http://bit.ly/1QHHkxo">http://bit.ly/1QHHkxo</a> </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- <a href="http://www.ucc.org/find">United Church of Christ Church Locator</a> - United Church of Christ - <a href="http://bit.ly/1QHGuRm">http://bit.ly/1QHGuRm</a> </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- <a href="http://www.uua.org/beliefs/what-we-believe/principles">Unitarian Universalist seven principles</a> - Unitarian Universalist Association - <a href="http://bit.ly/1QHGEZ5">http://bit.ly/1QHGEZ5</a> </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- <a href="http://bit.ly/1QHGQqZ">Amy Poehler's Smart Girls</a> on Twitter - <a class="ProfileHeaderCard-screennameLink u-linkComplex js-nav" href="https://twitter.com/smrtgrls">@<span class="u-linkComplex-target">smrtgrls</span></a> </p>
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2.08: Post-Story Discussion - Val
<p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;"><a href="http://www.stsaint.com/home/2015/09/2-07-guest-story-val/">In the previous episode</a>, I had a conversation with my guest Val, a bisexual woman, who talked about asking out both men and women. Continuing off of that, I bring up the major points we touched on in the conversation and shed a little more light on them. </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">People often say that it is dangerous or uncomfortable for women to approach men and ask them on dates because men could react unpredictably. They could get upset. They might see you has a slut or call you demeaning names. They might talk about you behind your back, or even physically assault you. I definitely agree with all of these points, but when we say this, it seems as though the assumption is that men never experience the same asking out women. But this couldn't be any more false. </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">People (both men and women) are unpredictable, so there is really no telling what any one person will do when they are approached for a date. I want there to be an easier and better solution to this problem, but I don't know that there is one; other than just teaching people not to conform to these ideas about gender, and not to be assholes to each other. </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">I also talk about what happens when a person is so infatuated by their crush that they can't even speak to them, even when on a date. Spoiler: the relationship is probably not going to work out. </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">At the top of the show, I also talk about the MTV Video Music Awards and Miley Cyrus. She has gotten a lot of flack from the media and feminists about how she performs her identity. I play devil's advocate and point out the ways Miley may be even more a feminist for doing what she does. </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;"><strong>REFERENCES </strong></p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- Miley Cyrus - Wikipedia - <a href="http://bit.ly/1KQm76e">http://bit.ly/1KQm76e</a> </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- Sound clip from <a href="http://www.dragonballz.com/">Dragon Ball Z</a> courtesy of <a href="http://www.cartoonnetwork.com/">Cartoon Network</a> </p>
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2.07: Guest Story - Val
<p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">In this episode I am joined by one of our very own podcast listeners. Val came on the show to share her experience being a bisexual woman dealing with the dating world just as everyone else does. </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">Val talks about how she felt men were privileged to be able to ask out women as opposed to waiting to be asked. However, when it came time to ask people out herself, she found it more stressful than she anticipated. Perhaps the grass isn't always greener on the other side. </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">We also discuss what happens when women ask out men and how we as a society still tend to think of it as inappropriate. </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">At the top of the show I also take some time to discuss the "<a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CXFgNhyP4-A">Dear Fat People</a>" video that has recently gone viral. Do we as a society still view fat and overweight and obese people as lazy, unhealthy, and ill? Fatness isn't always a result of a sedentary or unhealthy lifestyle, nor is it universally seen as problematic or unattractive. So it's not fair to criticize "fat people" as a group. </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">Next week I'll be revisiting some of the topics I discussed with Val, so send me your comments and questions and I'll try to hit on them in the next episode. </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;"><strong>REFERENCES </strong></p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- <a href="http://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2015/sep/08/dear-fat-people-vrial-video-canadian-comedian-nicole-arbour">The 'Dear Fat People' video is tired, cruel and lazy – but I still fight for the woman who made it</a> - The Guardian - <a href="http://bit.ly/1LXgQa6">http://bit.ly/1LXgQa6</a> </p>
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2.06: Don Jon
<p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">In this episode, I review the indie film <em>Don Jon</em> by Joseph Gordon-Levitt. The film centers around topics of pornorgaphy, masculinity, femininity, and relationships. </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">Trigger Warning: I also talk about the situation regarding Conrad Roy III's suicide. Roy was a teenager in Massachusetts who took his own life after his girlfriend urged him to go through with it. The details surrounding the case caused me to get a little passionate, but suicide and mental illness are very sensitive topics for me. You can find more details about the trial in the references below. </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">A big topic raised in the episode is the control women have over men in our society. We often think of women as being the "weaker sex," but it is often men who derail their entire lives simply to please women. In Don Jon we see how Joseph Gordon-Levitt's character is strung along by his romantic interest. Is it truly the mark of a "real man" to serve his woman hand over foot? </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">I also discuss pornography and porn addiction. Pornography in general is an extremely taboo subject, but mainly because sex in general is seen as taboo. I think if we were to be more open about sex and how we talk about it and learn about it, we can avoid a lot of the problems we run into regarding pornography. </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;"><strong>REFERENCES </strong></p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- <a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/teen-texts-boyfriends-suicide_55db712de4b04ae4970401b5?ncid=fcbklnkushpmg00000063">'It's Now Or Never,' Texted Teen Charged In Boyfriend's Suicide</a> - Huffington Post - <a href="http://huff.to/1Jy8frp">http://huff.to/1Jy8frp</a> </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- <a href="http://bit.ly/1JyhIic">Michelle Carter texts</a> - Scribd - <a href="http://bit.ly/1JyhIic">http://bit.ly/1JyhIic</a> </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- <a href="http://www.washingtonpost.com/news/morning-mix/wp/2015/08/31/its-now-or-never-texts-reveal-teens-efforts-to-pressure-boyfriend-into-suicide/">‘It’s now or never': Texts reveal teen’s efforts to pressure boyfriend into suicide</a> - The Washington Post - <a href="http://wapo.st/1Jy7WwA">http://wapo.st/1Jy7WwA</a> </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- <a href="https://www.afsp.org/understanding-suicide/facts-and-figures">Suicide Facts and Figures</a> - American Foundation for Suicide Prevention - <a href="http://bit.ly/1JyclzC">http://bit.ly/1JyclzC</a> </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- <a href="http://www.uua.org/re/owl">Our Whole Lives reference page</a> - Unitarian Universalist Association - <a href="http://www.uua.org/re/owl">http://www.uua.org/re/owl</a> </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- Movie dialogue and sound clips from <a href="http://donjonmovie.tumblr.com/">Don Jon</a> courtesy of <a href="http://relativitymedia.com/">Relativity Media</a> </p>
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2.05: Q&A - Why Do Men Hate Feminists?
<p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">In this episode, I'm doing a new segment where I take the time to answer some of your pressing questions about masculinity. Be sure to <a href="http://www.stsaint.com/home/contact/">send me an email</a> or leave me a voicemail to have your questions featured on the next Q&A episode. </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">The questions I answer this episode where inspired by the workshop I led last week about present day masculinity. They include "Why is Feminism a dirty word?" "Why do Feminists hate Men's Rights Activists?" and "How do you respond to Feminists who try to shut down your arguments?" </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">Additionally, I take some time to talk about <a href="http://kotaku.com/the-league-of-legends-championship-series-has-its-first-1724136651">the recent addition of a woman to the League of Legends Championship Series</a>. I apologise in advance for geeking out about League of Legends again, but I feel it is a milestone worth noting. </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">Any questions about the topics I bring up in this episode? Questions about Men's Rights Activism? Questions about Feminism? Questions about Remilia or the Renegades League of Legends team? Or just questions about masculinity in general? Leave me a comment or send an email, and I might share my answer on the podcast. </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;"><strong>REFERENCES </strong></p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- <a href="http://kotaku.com/the-league-of-legends-championship-series-has-its-first-1724136651">The <em>League Of Legends</em> Championship Series Has Its First Woman Player</a> - Kotaku - <a href="http://bit.ly/1hInrLR">http://bit.ly/1hInrLR</a> </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/renegades/comments/3gusu6/hi_its_remilia_lets_try_this_1_more_time/">Remilia's post-win statement</a> - Reddit - <a href="http://bit.ly/1hInw1U">http://bit.ly/1hInw1U</a> </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- <a href="https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLJA_jUddXvY62dhVThbeegLPpvQlR4CjF">Why Are You So Angry?</a> by <a href="https://www.youtube.com/user/mrskimps">Innuendo Studios</a> - YouTube - <a href="http://bit.ly/1JFPvoY">http://bit.ly/1JFPvoY</a> </p>
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2.04: The Dating Lottery
<p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">Mansplaining with Street Saint </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">In this episode, I discuss dating and give some tips for how to improve your chances of finding a compatible partner (especially for Nice Guys). Nice Guys, or more shy and introverted men, tend to struggle with dating especially since they are expected to take charge when they tend to avoid doing so in almost every other aspect of their lives. </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">Unfortunately, since we can't change our whole society's biases on gender roles immediately, I offer some tips to help you get what you want out of relationships. I compare dating to a lottery where your goal is to spend as little money as possible in order to gain the largest payout. </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">In the dating lottery, the lottery tickets are the people you want to date. The money you spend is your own psychological, emotional, and financial investment. And the payoff is intimacy, love, and sex. </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">I list 3 options for making this dating lottery less stressful and more worthwhile: </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">A. Improve your odds of winning </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">B. Spend less resources </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">C. Give up gambling </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">In the podcast I talk through each option and how you might use them to better your quality of life. It is up to you to determine what combination of these three options you need. </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">Let me know in the comments below if you found this breakdown helpful and what options you will use (A, B, and/or C) to improve your dating life. </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">Prior to my "mansplaination," I talk about "Rowdy" Ronda Rousey's impressive MMA fighting record as well as her rivalry with Floyd Mayweather. I pose the question of why we still think it's important to segregate male and female sports. </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;"><strong>REFERENCES </strong></p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- <a href="http://espn.go.com/mma/fighter/_/id/2563796/ronda-rousey">Ronda Rousey profile</a> - ESPN - <a href="http://es.pn/1LePjkd">http://es.pn/1LePjkd</a> </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- <a href="http://www.houstonchronicle.com/life/columnists/hoffman/article/Sadly-Mayweather-beats-domestic-abuse-history-too-6251709.php/">Sadly Mayweather beats domestic abuse history, too</a> - Houston Chronicle - <a href="http://bit.ly/1LePlZm">http://bit.ly/1LePlZm</a> </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- <a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/floyd-mayweather-ronda-rousey_55c4e652e4b0923c12bcb312">Floyd Mayweather Has A Cowardly Response To Ronda Rousey's Domestic Violence Dig</a> <span style="line-height:1.5;">- Huffington Post - <a href="http://huff.to/1LePxaZ">http://huff.to/1LePxaZ</a> </span></p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- <a href="http://www.msnbc.com/msnbc/ronda-rousey-i-can-beat-floyd-mayweather-no-rules-fight">Ronda Rousey: I can beat Floyd Mayweather in ‘no rules’ fight</a> <span style="line-height:1.5;">- MSNBC - <a href="http://on.msnbc.com/1LePDPJ">http://on.msnbc.com/1LePDPJ</a> </span></p>
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2.03: My Romantic Panic Attack (Discussion)
<p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">Continuing from the <a href="http://www.stsaint.com/home/2015/08/2-02-my-romantic-panic-attack-story/">previous episode</a>, I discuss <em><a href="http://www.stsaint.com/home/2015/08/2-02-lindsey-my-romantic-panic-attack-full-text/">Lindsey - My Romantic Panic Attack</a></em> and how the events impacted my life. </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">First off, I talk a bit about consent and how our society tends to overlook it. Consent is vitally important for relationships to work well, but we tend to instead favor subtlety and mystery. Without an open line of communication between partners, relationships are at risk of falling apart. In the worst cases, relationships can become either physically or emotionally abusive. Are you doing your part to ensure you are using consent in your relationships? </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">In the story discussion I detail what lead up to me having my breakdown over Lindsey. I learned that I had been using Lindsey as a means to get over my own personal demons instead of seeing her as relationship partner. I also talk about how the lack of communication between Lindsey and I caused us to think of our relationship two different ways. Finally, I discuss how my attempts at masculinity and my understanding of what it means to be a man helped to bring about my ultimate panic attack. </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">Have you suffered any moderate to severe emotional trauma due to a relationship? How did you cope with it? Let me know in the comment section below. </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">Remember if you feel you are suffering from mental illness, I highly recommend finding a therapist, counselor, or good friend you can speak candidly with. Doing so is what helped me through my issues. </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;"><strong>REFERENCES </strong></p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- Movie dialogue and sound clips from <a href="http://www.imdb.com/title/tt1659337/">The Perks of Being a Wallflower</a> courtesy of Summit Entertainment. </p>
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2.02: My Romantic Panic Attack (Story)
<p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">This week I share a story about an especially traumatic relationship I had when I was in college. From now on, story time is going to be a little different on Romeo And.... Previously, I would share a story and then follow it up with my analysis. I'll still be doing that, but now you all have more of a chance to chime in with your own feedback. </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">Here's how it's going to work. I'll tell the story one week and then the following week I'll provide my analysis. This way you can share your thoughts and ideas with me here, and I'll have a chance to incorporate your input in my discussion the following week. </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">So if you haven't already, listen to the story and be sure to send me all of your feedback. You can also read the text version of the story on my site (stsaint.com/podcast). </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">Additionally this episode I talk a little about Elliot Rodger. Rodger is notorious for the Isla Vista killings in 2014 when he shot and killed 6 in a murder spree. Elliot Rodger is the worst kind of "Nice Guy." He certainly wasn't a "nice" guy in the sense that he was a good person (him being a murderer). But he was a guy who devoted himself to making women happy, yet failed to get into a relationship. This is what defines the Nice Guy lifestyle. </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">Elliot Rodger's story saddens me because his breakdown and subsequent killing spree was completely avoidable. In fact, I believe that Rodger (though a bit socially awkward) could have been a decent, upstanding citizen. Unfortunately, he was convinced that men and women are and should act a certain way and this false sense of reality drove him insane. It drove him to the point that he sought revenge for being lied to. If we do better to educate our boys (and girls) as I so tirelessly advocate for us to do, we can prevent these types of mental breakdowns from happening. </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">I know this in my heart because I suffered from the same kind of breakdown. Several times. However, I share my worst one in this podcast "My Romantic Panic Attack." </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;"><strong>REFERENCES </strong></p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iG9CE55wbtY">Do Schools Kill Creativity?</a> TED Talk by Sir Ken Robinson - <a href="http://bit.ly/1L0B59l">http://bit.ly/1L0B59l</a> </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- <a href="https://www.youtube.com/user/ElliotRodger">Elliot Rodger Channel</a> on YouTube - <a href="http://bit.ly/1L0Bp7L">http://bit.ly/1L0Bp7L</a> </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- <a href="http://abclocal.go.com/three/kabc/kabc/My-Twisted-World.pdf">My Twisted World</a> by Elliot Rodger - <a href="http://bit.ly/1L0BCYA">http://bit.ly/1L0BCYA</a> </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- <a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/2014_Isla_Vista_killings">2014 Isla Vista Killings</a> on Wikipedia - <a href="http://bit.ly/1L0BHvo">http://bit.ly/1L0BHvo</a> </p>
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2.01: The 40 Year Old Virgin
<p style="font-weight:normal;color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">Welcome back, bros! It's only been a month, but I've already missed you all! </p><p style="font-weight:normal;color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">Welcome to the second season of Romeo And...! I have a lot of exciting plans for this season as well as the seasons going forward; the first of which, and most exciting of all, is that Romeo And... is now a WEEKLY podcast! Same great content, but now every week! </p><p style="font-weight:normal;color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">The first episode of the new season is a movie review of The 40 Year Old Virgin. I talk about how one becomes a 40-year-old virgin and what is supposedly "wrong" with a person who is unable to have sex. I also talk about the methods used to lose one's virginity and how we as a society condition people to approach the dating world. Finally, I discuss the problems these lines of thinking cause and how men are doomed to fail when it comes to interacting with women. </p><p style="font-weight:normal;color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">Have you felt any pressure to lose your virginity? If so, what did you do about it? What methods did you consider/use to have your first sexual experience? Let me know in the comments, or send me an email. </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;"><strong>REFERENCES </strong></p><p style="font-weight:normal;color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- Movie dialogue and sound clips from <a href="http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0405422/">The 40-Year-Old Virgin</a> courtesy of <a href="http://www.universalpictures.com/">Universal Pictures</a> </p>
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1.11: Scott Pilgrim vs. The World
<p style="font-weight:normal;color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">SEASON FINALE!! </p><p style="font-weight:normal;color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">Thanks so much to all of you who have been listening thus far. I've already begun my plans for season 2 and can't wait to get started with it! Check back for new episodes of Romeo And... starting in August 2015. </p><p style="font-weight:normal;color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">In this episode of the podcast I discuss the movie Scott Pilgrim vs. The World. I also put my two cents into the discussion regarding Rachel Dolezal and her claims to be a black woman. </p><p style="font-weight:normal;color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">I didn't think I would have to talk about race again so soon, but here we are. Rachel Dolezal has been all over the headlines recently when it was revealed that she had been passing herself as black for over 10 years. To be honest, I don't really care if a person claims they are of a different race. What bothered me about the controversy was people trying to use Rachel's story to discredit or question the trans community, specifically Caitlyn Jenner. Caitlyn came out as trans because she felt she wasn't being true to herself. Rachel, on the other hand, calls herself black because she is a liar and became obsessed with the black persona she created for herself. It's not fair to try and make a comparison between these two women. </p><p style="font-weight:normal;color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">In my discussion of Scott Pilgrim vs. The World, I talk about what makes Scott Pilgrim a good guy, someone we can associate ourselves with, as well as what makes Scott a bad role model. I also look at the movie as a whole and the positive as well as negative messages it sends about masculinity. The film is ultimately a parody of most films that depict a man doing battle for the love of a woman. However, in poking fun of this style of film, Scott Pilgrim adds itself to the list of films that depict a man battling for the love of a woman. </p><p style="font-weight:normal;color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">What's your take on the film? Do you feel it successfully sends the message that it is silly to fight for a woman's love? Or does it simply reaffirm our understandings about gender roles? Let me know in the comment section below. </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;"><strong>REFERENCES </strong></p><p style="font-weight:normal;color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;"><em>- <a href="http://nyti.ms/1BhIUUr">Rachel Dolezal, in Center of Storm, Is Defiant: ‘I Identify as Black’</a></em> - The New York Times - <a href="http://nyti.ms/1BhIUUr">http://nyti.ms/1BhIUUr</a> </p><p style="font-weight:normal;color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;"><em>- <a href="http://slate.me/1BhK3Lw">Dolezal Says She’s Felt Black From Early Age, Evades Tougher Credibility Questions on Today</a></em> - Slate - <a href="http://slate.me/1BhK3Lw">http://slate.me/1BhK3Lw</a> </p><p style="font-weight:normal;color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- <a href="http://1.usa.gov/1GtyHmF">Spokane County QuickFacts</a> - United States Census Bureau - <a href="http://1.usa.gov/1GtyHmF">http://1.usa.gov/1GtyHmF</a> </p><p style="font-weight:normal;color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- <a href="http://radiomaru.tumblr.com/scottpilgrim">Scott Pilgrim</a> - <a href="http://radiomaru.tumblr.com/">Bryan Lee O'Malley</a> - <a href="http://bit.ly/1QLiXn2">http://bit.ly/1QLiXn2</a> </p><p style="font-weight:normal;color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- Movie dialogue and sound clips from <a href="http://www.scottpilgrimthemovie.com/">Scott Pilgrim vs. The World</a> courtesy of Universal Pictures </p><p style="font-weight:normal;"></p>
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1.10: Seeing Myself in Others
<p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">In this episode, we've got stories of ballroom dance, college, super heroes, flying trapeze, and of course boobs! Another episode with two stories for the price of one! Topics include female body shaming, men playing the hero, and good old fashioned gender roles. </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">In the first part of the episode, I share a story about a flying trapeze class I taught where two of the teens taking the class were pulled aside and asked to change clothes for fear their boobs might get exposed. In our culture, the fact that women's breasts are seen as offensive and inappropriate to display publicly I think is worth considering. What do we gain by forcing women to hide their breasts when men are free to do so? Are we really too immature a people to see breasts in public and not freak out? </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">The featured story of the podcast is another about my time in college. In episode one, I talked about Spider-Man and how men are pressured to always be the hero. In this story, I take that understanding and apply it to my own life as I try to rescue a girl who probably doesn't need my help at all. </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">Do you think it is ever a problem that men are pressured to be the saviors all of the time? Let me know your opinions in the comment section below. </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">Note that the next episode of the podcast will be the season one finale of Romeo And... and the podcast will be on break for the month of July. Be sure to check back and find it again in August when we return for season two! </p>
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1.09: Crazy, Stupid, Love
<p style="font-size:16px;font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;color:rgb(51,51,51);line-height:24px;">In this episode, I critique the romantic comedy Crazy, Stupid, Love. The film drew a significant audience due to its all-star cast including Steve Carell, Ryan Gosling, Emma Stone, Julianne Moore, and Kevin Bacon. And though it is hilariously funny, it sends some troubling messages about masculinity and dating. </p><p style="font-size:16px;font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;color:rgb(51,51,51);line-height:24px;">I also discuss the problem of sexist dating advice that is often offered to men. Female dating coaches especially tell men to simply "be confident" or "interesting" or "unique" when they approach women. But women never feel the pressure that comes from the approach. Until women are socially approved to approach men, they have to acknowledge the privilege they gain from our patriarchal society. </p><p style="font-size:16px;font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;color:rgb(51,51,51);line-height:24px;">Crazy, Stupid, Love illustrates some of the problems that arise from this pressure on men to be initiators. Teenage boy are especially guilty of nagging girls to the point of harassment because they are taught to "never give up." Especially when it comes to the idea of a "soulmate." The moral of the movie  could be summed up as "never give up on your soulmate," but there are so many issues with this line of thinking. </p><p style="font-size:16px;font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;color:rgb(51,51,51);line-height:24px;">Lastly, I talk about what it means for a guy to be a "loser." Essentially, a loser is a guy who lacks social adeptness. Once again, to be an introverted man is an oxymoron in our culture. And here is just one more piece of popular media that reinforces the idea. </p><p style="font-size:16px;font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;color:rgb(51,51,51);line-height:24px;">What is your take on the film? Have you ever used an over-the-top method to try to win over a crush? Did it work? Let me know in the comments below. </p><p style="font-size:16px;font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;color:rgb(51,51,51);line-height:24px;"><strong>REFERENCES </strong></p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);line-height:24px;"><font face="Georgia, Times New Roman, Bitstream Charter, Times, serif" style="font-size:16px;">- </font><a href="http://crazystupidlove.warnerbros.com/dvd/" style="font-size:16px;font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;">Crazy, Stupid, Love</a><font face="Georgia, Times New Roman, Bitstream Charter, Times, serif" style="font-size:16px;"> movie dialogue and sound clips courtesy of Warner Bros. Pictu</font><font face="Georgia"><font style="font-size:16px;">r</font><font>es -</font> <a href="http://bit.ly/1HrFHOB" title="" style="line-height:normal;">http://bit.ly/1HrFHOB </a></font></p>
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1.08: Navigating the Middle School Jungle - A Survival Guide
<p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">In this episode, I reflect on my middle school years and "the (other) one that got away." The story mainly focuses on middle school in general and how terrible an experience it often is, but I also talk about another crush I had and how I (once again) failed to do the right things. </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">In the beginning of the episode, I talk about the Baltimore riots going on right now and I share another personal story about a run-in with the law. If you didn't already know, people are gathering in Baltimore, Maryland to protest the police killing another unarmed black American. It sucks that race is still an issue we have to tackle, but it hurts us even more if we pretend that it isn't a factor. </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">If racism no longer existed and it wasn't a factor we have to pay attention to, than my life would not have been any different than my white friends' I grew up with. But because my skin is brown, I had to make certain decisions and face certain inequalities that my white friends would never even have to consider. That's what these protests are about. And if you don't know about them, I urge you to <a href="http://www.cnn.com/specials/baltimore-riots">educate yourself</a>. Just by opening your eyes to these issues, you can bring us as a nation a step in the right direction. </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">Following both stories, I offer my two cents and analyze the major events, but I'd like to hear from you. What is your opinion on race in America? Do you feel that the police are simply doing their jobs in the recent events in the news? Also, what was your experience going through middle school in America? Do you think there are improvements that can be made to our current education system? Let me know in the comments below. </p>
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1.07: The Edipus Concert - Interview with Janis Hillard
<p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">In this episode, I have a conversation with Janis Hillard of <a href="http://edipus.org/">Edipus.org</a>. Edipus is an organization that is coordinating a concert specifically for survivors of sexual assault and abuse. What is exciting and different about this particular concert is that all of the performers will be male. </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">Though it is excellent and important for women to speak out about rape and sexual abuse, we don't often hear from male voices on these issues. The Edipus Concert seeks to create a platform for men to speak out about rape and pledge their support to the victims and survivors. <br /></p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">Janis Hillard is one of the founders of the Edipus organization and she sheds some light on how she came up with the idea for the concert and paints a picture of what it will look like. If you are a male performer and you are looking for a great opportunity to contribute your music toward an excellent cause, head to <a href="http://edipus.org/">Edipus.org</a> and let them know who you are. Similarly, if you are not a performer but still feel you can contribute to the concert in other ways, contact Janis and the Edipus concert team. </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">Finally, the Edipus Concert needs your help to make the event into a big hit. Links to the organization's social media are below. Spread the word and share your support for the concert to help it reach a greater audience! </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">What are your thoughts on the Edipus Concert? Do you have suggestions for other artists you would love to see featured? Leave your suggestions in the comment section below. </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;"><strong>REFERENCES </strong></p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- More about Janis Hillard and the Edipus Concert at <a href="http://edipus.org/">Edipus.org</a> </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- Edipus Concert on <a href="https://www.facebook.com/pages/Edipus-Concert/205585846272493">Facebook</a> - <a href="http://on.fb.me/1Id8QRy">http://on.fb.me/1Id8QRy</a> </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- Edipus Concert on <a href="https://twitter.com/EdipusConcert">Twitter</a> - <a href="http://bit.ly/1A3kN5r">http://bit.ly/1A3kN5r</a> </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- <a href="http://www.ywca.org/site/c.cuIRJ7NTKrLaG/b.7515807/k.2737/YWCA__Eliminating_Racism_Empowering_Women.htm">YWCA</a> sexual empowerment and advocacy organization - <a href="http://bit.ly/1OudwYj">http://bit.ly/1OudwYj</a> </p>
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1.06: The Church of OkCupid
<p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">This episode of Romeo And... is all about online dating. In the episode I share a story about my experiences on <a href="http://www.stsaint.com/home/wp-admin/www.okcupid.com" title="OkCupid">OkCupid</a>. Mostly, it's pretty sad. The story itself is a dark comedy, and the ending is especially melancholy. Although, I did learn a lot from my experiences and I share all of that in the episode breakdown. </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;"><a href="http://www.stsaint.com/home/2015/04/1-06-the-church-of-okcupid-full-text/" title="1.06: The Church of OkCupid (Full Text)">View the full story here</a> <strong>(You must be <a title="Log In" href="http://www.stsaint.com/home/log-in/">logged in</a> to view the full story!) </strong></p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">Leading up to the story, I talk a little about a more recent experience I had using OkCupid. I met someone online and we decided to meet up in person. However, as the guy, I was expected to pick the first date. And I talk about how funny it is that guys, even though we tend to be pretty bad at coming up with first date ideas, are generally put into the position to do it. Meanwhile, most of my straight female friends are full of great first date ideas that they are never able to use because they are dependent on the men they date to suggest them. This is the society we live in. </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">After the story I share with you my advice for approaching and asking someone on a date. I called it <strong>G.R.O.W</strong>, which breaks down to: </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">1. <strong>G</strong>reet the person </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">Fairly straightforward. Just walk up to the person and say hello. Often it's the most difficult step because it can be nerve wracking just to approach someone you find attractive. But you can't meet someone new if you never introduce yourself. </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">2 & 3. Give your <strong>R</strong>eason for approaching, and <strong>O</strong>pen the conversation to him/her </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">These two steps go hand-in-hand. First, you let the person know why you wanted to approach him/her. This is what is going to give you the opportunity to start a conversation with the person. This could be a compliment or an observation you make about the person. You can then use this to ask a question and open the conversation up to him/her. For example, you might say, "I noticed you reading Shakespeare. Are you a big fan of poetry?" </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">4. <strong>W</strong>atch his/her reaction </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">The final step is to watch, listen, and observe. This step is key. Look at the person's body language and non-verbal queues especially. Do they seem uncomfortable? Do they seem genuinely happy you stopped to speak with them? You can judge based on the person's reaction how you go forward with the conversation or if you go forward with the conversation at all. The person might let you know either verbally or nonverbally that he/she is not interested, at which point you can politely say your goodbyes. </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">The G.R.O.W method can be used in real-life situations as well as online interactions. Simply type whatever greeting you would have used, and give your reason based on the person's profile. </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">All this said, I'm not a big fan of the acronym "GROW." If you have an idea for a better acronym or have heard of a similar strategy that has its own formula, let me know about it. Leave a comment in the box below or send me an email. </p>
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1.05: The Perks of Being a Wallflower
<p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">In this episode, I discuss the Bechdel Test for superhero movies and analyze <em>The Perks of Being a Wallflower</em>, both the book and the movie. </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">The Daily Dot featured an article about the recent superhero movies and how most have failed the Bechdel Test. And though this does highlight a problem with our current tendency toward male dominated and male focused movies, the fact that these films failed the Bechdel Test, I argue, is not as problematic as the author suggests. The problem is that films too often have male protagonists, not that movie writers are too lazy or sexist to write strong female characters. </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">In discussing the Perks of Being a Wallflower, I look at both the film and the book it was based on. Both the book and the movie were written by Stephen Chbosky, so the movie is a good representation of the events that happen in the book. </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">I discuss how the book and film portray masculinity and how they characterize masculinity. I also discuss shyness, introversion, and anxiety and how being any (or all of them) can be damning for a man. I look at a few of the key relationships in the film and discuss the messages they send about how we think about maleness. </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">Ultimately, it seems as though manliness depends on a man not being shy or introverted. Men are supposed to be strong, bold, and assertive, which tend to be extroverted traits. Being more cerebral, passive, and quiet is viewed as unmanly. What is your opinion on this? Does being an introvert or shy make you any less of a man? Have you ever felt ostracized for being shy as a man? Leave your opinions in the comments section below or <a title="Contact" href="http://www.stsaint.com/home/contact/">contact me via email</a>. </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;"><strong>REFERENCES </strong></p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- <a title="The Bechdel Test for Women in Movies on YouTube" href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bLF6sAAMb4s">The Bechdel Test for Women in Movies</a> by <a title="Feminist Frequency" href="http://www.feministfrequency.com/">Feminist Frequency</a> - http://bit.ly/1BIBvHX </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- <a href="http://www.dailydot.com/geek/superhero-movie-bechdel-infographic/">An illustrated guide to superhero movies that pass the Bechdel Test</a> on <a title="The Daily Dot" href="http://www.dailydot.com/">The Daily Dot</a> - http://bit.ly/171aSWm </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- <a title="The Perks of Being a Wallflower on Amazon.com" href="http://www.amazon.com/Perks-Being-Wallflower-Stephen-Chbosky/dp/1451696191">The Perks of Being a Wallflower</a> by Stephen Chbosky - http://amzn.to/1EmON2M </p><p style="color:rgb(51,51,51);font-family:Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;">- <a title="The Perks of Being a Wallflower on IMDb" href="http://www.imdb.com/title/tt1659337/">The Perks of Being a Wallflower</a> movie dialogue and sound clips courtesy of <a title="Mr. Mudd" href="http://www.mrmudd.com/">Mr. Mudd Productions</a> </p>
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1.04: Laura - Elementary School Romance (pt. 2)
<p style="font-style:normal;font-variant:normal;font-weight:normal;line-height:normal;"><font face="Georgia">In this episode I feature the second and final story in my Elementary School Romance saga. I also discuss the new 50 Shades of Grey movie as well as Emma Watson's Q&A on International Women's Day. </font></p><p style="font-style:normal;font-variant:normal;font-weight:normal;line-height:normal;"><span style="font-family:Georgia;">Also, I was featured on the </span><a title="The Vagina Chronicles Podcast" href="http://vaginachroniclespodcast.com/" style="font-family:Georgia;">Vagina Chronicles Podcast</a><span style="font-family:Georgia;">! Hostesses Angela and Toni invited me to have a conversation with them about men and why most guys seem to be afraid of feminism. Find a link to the interview in the references below.</span></p><p style="font-style:normal;font-variant:normal;font-weight:normal;line-height:normal;"><span style="font-family:Georgia;">The book 50 Shades of Grey has sparked a lot of controversy lately especially with the recent release of the movie adaptation. Though I have not yet seen the movie or read the book, I address some of the controversy surrounding the book. Namely, how the film paints a negative picture of the BDSM and kink communities. Though 50 Shades can be taken the wrong way, I ultimately feel it probably does more good than harm for the BDSM community. </span></p><p style="font-style:normal;font-variant:normal;font-weight:normal;line-height:normal;"><span style="font-family:Georgia;">Last weekend, on International Women's Day (March 8th), Emma Watson did a </span><a title="He for She Conversation with Emma Watson" href="http://bit.ly/1E5TA5L" style="font-family:Georgia;">Q&A conversation</a><span style="font-family:Georgia;"> on gender equality and the He for She campaign. If you are a guy, be sure to sign yourself up on their website </span><a title="He for She" href="http://www.heforshe.org" style="font-family:Georgia;">HeforShe.org</a><span style="font-family:Georgia;"> if you haven't already to pledge your commitment to the fight for equal rights for the sexes. I have decided that Romeo And... will now be an (un)official affiliate of He for She since the organization is doing such great work. (Call me, Emma!) </span></p><p style="font-style:normal;font-variant:normal;font-weight:normal;line-height:normal;"><span style="font-family:Georgia;">This week's story is about a crush I had on one of my best friends in elementary school. Unlike with Naomi, I was actually comfortable around my friend Laura, so I thought dating her would be much easier. I thought wrong! </span></p><p style="font-style:normal;font-variant:normal;font-weight:normal;line-height:normal;"><font face="Georgia"><font>The full story can be found at </font><a href="http://bit.ly/RALaura" title="Laura on Street Saint">http://bit.ly/RALaura</a><font> (You must be registered on the site to view the story) </font></font></p><p style="font-style:normal;font-variant:normal;font-weight:normal;line-height:normal;"><font face="Georgia">Following the story, I discuss what I did well in attempting to start a relationship, as well as what I did poorly and what more I could have done. Even though we were just kids, we had already developed clear ideas about the importance of being in a relationship and how the different sexes are supposed to behave in relationships. </font></p><p style="font-style:normal;font-variant:normal;font-weight:normal;line-height:normal;"><font face="Georgia"><strong>REFERENCES</strong> </font></p><p style="font-style:normal;font-variant:normal;font-weight:normal;line-height:normal;"><font face="Georgia">- My interview with the <a href="http://vaginachroniclespodcast.com/">Vagina Chronicles Podcast</a> - <a title="Why (Some) Men May Fear Feminism on The Vagina Chronicles Podcast" href="http://bit.ly/18sGJQ8">http://bit.ly/18sGJQ8</a> </font></p><p style="font-style:normal;font-variant:normal;font-weight:normal;line-height:normal;"><font face="Georgia">- <a title="Emma Watson on Facebook" href="https://www.facebook.com/emmawatson?ref=br_tf">Emma Watson</a>'s <a title="He for She" href="http://www.heforshe.org/">He for She</a> Q&A on International Women's Day - <a title="He for She Conversation with Emma Watson" href="http://bit.ly/1E5TA5L">http://bit.ly/1E5TA5L</a> </font></p><p style="font-style:normal;font-variant:normal;font-weight:normal;line-height:normal;"><font face="Georgia">- <a href="http://www.eljamesauthor.com/books/fifty-shades-of-grey/">50 Shades of Grey</a> by E.L. James - <a title="50 Shades of Grey by E.L. James" href="http://bit.ly/1NXLJwJ">http://bit.ly/1NXLJwJ</a> </font></p><div style="font-size:10pt;font-family:Arial, Verdana;font-style:normal;font-variant:normal;font-weight:normal;line-height:normal;"><span style="font-size:13.3333330154419px;"><br /></span></div>
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1.03: The Men's Rights Movement
<div><font face="Arial, Verdana"><span style="font-size:13.3333330154419px;">In this episode, we take a look at Rek'Sai, a champion in the online game League of Legends. As one of the most popular video games in the world, League of Legends is leading the gaming industry in more ways than one. Rek'Sai is a demonstration of how Riot Games is working to diversify the way gender is depicted in games. Though Rek'Sai is a visually genderless creature, Riot Games decided to make her female, forcing gamers who would have otherwise assumed she was male first to rethink their assumptions of gender.</span></font></div><div><font face="Arial, Verdana"><span style="font-size:13.3333330154419px;"><br /></span></font></div><div><font face="Arial, Verdana"><span style="font-size:13.3333330154419px;">The main subject of the episode concerns the Men's Rights Movement. The movement has seen a lot of popularity in recent years and it has caused a fair bit of controversy. Generally seen as a feminist-bashing task-force, the Men's Rights Movement has gained a lot of enemies. However, there are a number of positive aspects about the movement, and its members raise a lot of important questions about men and how they are viewed in our culture.</span></font></div><div><font face="Arial, Verdana"><span style="font-size:13.3333330154419px;"><br /></span></font></div><div><font face="Arial, Verdana"><span style="font-size:13.3333330154419px;">I identify the various Men's Rights Movements, what their basic goals are, and how they differ from each other.  I discuss why feminist and other groups dislike the movement, as well as the upsides to the movement and why it should be taken seriously.</span></font></div><div><span style="font-size:13.3333330154419px;"><br /></span></div><div><span style="font-size:13.3333330154419px;">Romeo And... generally focuses on male narratives (both fictional and non-fictional), though this episode is more of a lecture on the Men's Movement. As the Romeo And... podcast covers the depiction of men in the media as well as gender discrimination regarding men, I felt it was important to discuss the Men's Movement because closely pertains to the subjects I cover in the podcast.</span></div><div><font face="Arial, Verdana"><span style="font-size:13.3333330154419px;"><br /></span></font></div><div><font face="Arial, Verdana"><span style="font-size:13.3333330154419px;"><strong>REFERENCES  </strong></span></font></div><div><font face="Arial, Verdana"><span style="font-size:13.3333330154419px;"><br /></span></font></div><div><font face="Arial, Verdana"><span style="font-size:13.3333330154419px;">- <a title="Rek'Sai, the Void Burrower - League of Legends" href="http://na.leagueoflegends.com/en/champion-reveal/reksai-the-void-burrower">Rek'Sai</a> image courtesy of <a title="Riot Games" href="http://www.riotgames.com/">Riot Games</a> - <a title="Rek'Sai" href="http://news.cdn.leagueoflegends.com/public/images/pages/rs/img/RS_WP.jpg">http://news.cdn.leagueoflegends.com/public/images/pages/rs/img/RS_WP.jpg</a>  </span></font></div><div><font face="Arial, Verdana"><span style="font-size:13.3333330154419px;"><br /></span></font></div><div><font face="Arial, Verdana"><span style="font-size:13.3333330154419px;">- 27 million people watched the League of Legends World Championships - The Daily Dot - <a title="27 million people watched the League of Legends World Championships - The Daily Dot" href="http://www.dailydot.com/esports/league-of-legends-world-championships-viewership-numbers/">http://www.dailydot.com/esports/league-of-legends-world-championships-viewership-numbers/</a>  </span></font></div><div><font face="Arial, Verdana"><span style="font-size:13.3333330154419px;"><br /></span></font></div><div><font face="Arial, Verdana"><span style="font-size:13.3333330154419px;">- League of Legends Wiki - <a title="League of Legends Wiki" href="http://leagueoflegends.wikia.com/wiki/League_of_Legends_Wiki">http://leagueoflegends.wikia.com/wiki/League_of_Legends_Wiki</a>  </span></font></div><div><font face="Arial, Verdana"><span style="font-size:13.3333330154419px;"><br /></span></font></div><div><font face="Arial, Verdana"><span style="font-size:13.3333330154419px;">- Men's Movement Wikipedia - <a title="Men's movement - Wikipedia" href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Men%27s_movement">http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Men%27s_movement</a>  </span></font></div><div><font face="Arial, Verdana"><span style="font-size:13.3333330154419px;"><br /></span></font></div><div><font face="Arial, Verdana"><span style="font-size:13.3333330154419px;">- The Red Pill Reddit - <a title="The Red Pill - Reddit" href="http://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/">http://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/</a>  </span></font></div><div><font face="Arial, Verdana"><span style="font-size:13.3333330154419px;"><br /></span></font></div><div><font face="Arial, Verdana"><span style="font-size:13.3333330154419px;">- The More You Know jingle - Courtesy of </span></font><a href="http://www.nbcuniversal.com/" title="NBC Universal">NBC Universal</a><font face="Arial, Verdana"><span style="font-size:13.3333330154419px;">  </span></font></div><div><br /></div>
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1.02: Naomi - Elementary School Romance (pt. 1)
<p style="font-weight:normal;margin:10px 0px 20px;padding:0px;color:rgb(17,17,17);font-family:Georgia, serif;font-size:13.6000003814697px;line-height:21.7600002288818px;">In this episode I share a true story I wrote in high school during the 90s. The story centers around my first crush. I was in elementary school, and I was too shy to tell her how I felt.</p><p style="font-weight:normal;margin:10px 0px 20px;padding:0px;color:rgb(17,17,17);font-family:Georgia, serif;font-size:13.6000003814697px;line-height:21.7600002288818px;">Ultimately, the events that took place had a significant impact on my life and the way I viewed relationships and dating. Much of the actions I took were informed by what I had learned from the media as a child about what being a man means. In the end, I was left heartbroken and embarrassed and had no idea what I had done wrong.</p><p style="font-weight:normal;margin:10px 0px 20px;padding:0px;color:rgb(17,17,17);font-family:Georgia, serif;font-size:13.6000003814697px;line-height:21.7600002288818px;"><a href="http://www.stsaint.com/home/2015/02/1-02-naomi-elementary-school-romance-pt-2/" title="Naomi on Street Saint" style="font-family:Arial, Verdana;font-size:10pt;line-height:normal;">The full story can be found here</a>.</p><p style="font-weight:normal;margin:10px 0px 20px;padding:0px;color:rgb(17,17,17);font-family:Georgia, serif;font-size:13.6000003814697px;line-height:21.7600002288818px;">Following the story, I discuss why men are often intimidated by women, and what implications this has on behavior. I discuss the media and how it can impact people’s (especially children’s) ideas about gender dynamics. Finally, I talk about how gender equality can improve how both men and women see each other and themselves.  </p><p style="margin:10px 0px 20px;padding:0px;color:rgb(17,17,17);font-family:Georgia, serif;font-size:13.6000003814697px;line-height:21.7600002288818px;"><strong>REFERENCES  </strong></p><p style="font-weight:normal;margin:10px 0px 20px;padding:0px;color:rgb(17,17,17);font-family:Georgia, serif;font-size:13.6000003814697px;line-height:21.7600002288818px;">- <a title="Quiet on Amazon" href="http://www.amazon.com/Quiet-Power-Introverts-World-Talking/dp/0307352153" style="color:rgb(66,63,238);">Quiet</a> by Susan Cain  </p><p style="font-weight:normal;margin:10px 0px 20px;padding:0px;color:rgb(17,17,17);font-family:Georgia, serif;font-size:13.6000003814697px;line-height:21.7600002288818px;">- Joker dialogue from <a title="The Dark Knight IMDb" href="http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0468569/" style="color:rgb(66,63,238);">The Dark Knight</a> courtesy of Legendary Pictures, DC Comics, and Syncopy  </p>
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